People hide their insecurity in many, many ways. Let’s face it - the mind is full of self-defense mechanisms. Insecurity can turn us into someone we really are not.
For instance, let’s take the club scene that was so well defined in the previous Blogs. Someone who is the life-and-soul of the party may very well be that extrovert in order to keep an inner hurt from being discovered. It's a kind of camouflage, and it works like this: "If people don't see the real me, they cannot hurt the real me. If they upset the outer me, that's OK. But they won't because I'm the life and soul of the party."
Insecurity plays out even more in relationships. Most people seek a soul mate to love them unconditionally. But those who need such acceptance most—the terminally insecure—often sabotage their own chances of finding true love because of constantly questioning their own actions and the actions of their significant other.
So, how to solve it? I know one thing: DON'T post it on Facebook.
Let me preach to the choir for a second...and please correct me if I'm wrong! -- Facebook exposes the insecurity of so many women. It is truly SAD that women are revealing their most personal and intimate thoughts on their profile statuses.
Let’s take a few good examples. (All are examples and not taken from actual profiles)
Krissy is…“I trusted you. I gave you my all. Sometimes the person you want the most, you're better off without"
Sarah is… “I guess that’s all I mean to you…then so be it”
Mary Jane is.. “Shakin off these haters! If they only knew how much I DIDN'T care!” … (really? You didn't care what people thought, so you posted a status to tell the whole world that? Umm ok. Not buying it.)
Let me end by saying this – ladies, by posting your reactions, emotions and details of the most private aspects of your life in a facebook status– you are ultimately portraying yourself as insecure. Be confident, be bold, but don’t be stupid- don’t use a daily facebook status in order to momentarily uplift yourself in the midst of a personal struggle. Pray about it. Buy a Journal. Call a friend. Better yet, make a blog with an ambiguous message. 2,000 of your friends don't need to know that John Doe played you and now you’re lost in the struggle. Cuz after seeing that status, John Doe and all his friends are gonna clown you as well.
_HIL_
4 comments:
Say F'n Word! Hil...hahaha, see Seventeenth Letter's previous blog on a similar subject...are yall me? http://themindofq.blogspot.com/2008/05/you-my-girlfriend-cuz-facebook-says-so.html
ladies so right on the insecurities..its very unbecoming of a lady of all statures but in all fairness, devil's advocate here, we all face internal insecurities whether we admit them or not and public announcements and shout outs to one's personal opinion can also be the same, a validation of some sort, just in a different form of communication. Remember ladies not all are built FORD tough!
From reading this post, I dont think it was meant to say that ladies don't have insecurities. I don't believe it's unbecoming of a lady to have insecurities, it's actually normal. You're right though, whether we admit them or not, EVERYONE has insecurities...EVERYONE. I believe the point of this blog was to simply state DO NOT post all of your business, emotions, and feelings on a facebook status, in hopes that John Doe will see it and change his mind about you. Who isn't hurt over a breakup or gettin played? But don't make yourself look stupid by drowning yourself in self pity for the whole world to see.
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