BOLDNESS!!!!!

1. fearless, adventurous, brave, valiant, intrepid, valorous, dauntless.
2. Bold, brazen, forward, presumptuous may refer to manners in a derogatory way. Bold suggests impudence, shamelessness, and immodesty

....Yes, we stooges have named BOLDNESS the theme of the summer. Why, you ask? How many of you have ever been out at a restaurant/bar/club, and have seen somebody who you thought was extremely attractive? You’re single, you’re not sure if they're single, and you’re not sure if he or she would even give you the time of day; so you give them many, many long hard glances, comment to your friends on how FOINE you think this person is, fantasize about he or she being on your arm, and let the chance to introduce yourself slip by. It happens on a daily basis. There are a few reasons why I haven’t gone up to those people, who off of looks alone, COULD BE MY BABY DADDY: lack of CONFIDENCE and fear of REJECTION!

If it’s one thing I have learned over the past yr. it’s that men like confident women! There could be many reasons as to why a woman isn’t confident/secure with herself, which will be addressed on another occasion. A lof of us women aren’t confident in our looks. As a female, half of what we think is absolutely horrific on our bodies, men don’t even notice NOR do they care about. Seriously! I’ve heard some friends (including myself, i'm my friend) talk about their stretch marks, dimples, big asses, saying they're getting fat...all of which I’ve heard men say isn’t a deal breaker. In the words of Katt Williams, “I think I speak for all the real men in attendance tonight when I say we don’t have time to be worried bout no sh*t like stretch marks. We know they came from either one of 2 thangs, either you was big and got small, or you was small and got big, either way...." yea, you know the rest.

Regardless of what you look like, your confidence can get you a LONG way. If I had to choose between a confident AIGHT looking man and a low self esteem/non confident FINE man, I’d choose the aight lookin one first. Please let it be known that there is a very fine line between cockiness and confidence. Cocky guys make me want to throw up in my mouth, to be honest with you; but there’s nothin sexier than an educated, confident man who has all his stuff together.

So my challenge to you for the next time u hit a club is to walk in there like you’re the FINEST girl or guy that’s ever walked the face of this earth. Who cares what you really look like? It’s all about your confidence. It will get you so much further. If you see a sexy girl or guy in the club, walk up to them. The most they can do is walk away or say no, and in that case you’ll probably never see them again anyway. Best case scenario, you'll get them digits ;-) If it’s been a while since you put that pimpin game to work, do a quick warm up when u get to the club. Walk up to a less attractive individual (cuz we all know they’re out there) and roll that game out, just to see if you still got it. I promise ya'll that Dev, Hil, and I do this on a WEEKLY basis....TRUST me when I tell you. Be bold!!
If you knew you wouldn't get rejected, what would you try to accomplish??

BOLDNESS:SUMMER ’08:GO GET WHAT YOU WANT!!!!

-Raye